Cousins and parenting and vicious attavks

I was discussing the previous cousin weekend and how one of the cousins opted not to come unless a sibling was able to come. That wasn;t an option for us although maybe if we would have had more of a heads up we could have arranged things or rented a car. But we weren;t told until the day of it limited options and the dcsions had already been made. Anyway when Iwas discussing this with a group of people it became an attack on me. Which seems odd. They accused me of singling out only specific cousins which I didn't do. How I could have made it work and invited anoter cousin. With out knowing the whole story these people attacked my intergrity and it was just so strange. I agreed with some of them but it was so odd that only a few amount asked questons and sought for understanding. I can see now how such a small sliver of a story made me be the vilian. Anyway we are suppouse to leave Saturday for DC. So many mixed emotions It really is a subor of thought. So we will fly Saturday with no clear plan of where we should be . I do have some faith that it will all work out. There are other things that have been weighing on my mond such as surgery and financial stuff. I never posted this byt now a month later WTH here it is....