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Feeling Validated

For the last year or so I have felt very uncomfortable with the kids being interviewed in a room with the bishop with the door closed.  There are several reasons for this.  First of all when the kids had their interviews for the Idaho Falls open house the counselor interviewing Victoria crossed a line. I felt he was inappropriate.  But I couldn’t stop it.  I couldn’t allow that situation to happen again.  Lee and I discussed and while he disagreed he was kind of “whatever”.  Then we had some company visit and they were shocked that I wasn’t going to allow the kids to do bishops interviews  solo.

I had drafted a letter to the bishop starting my concerns and why I wasn’t going to allow Victoria to be interviewed alone.  I felt very strongly I shouldn’t sent it but also continue to feel I just could not allow Victoria to visit alone with the bishop.  My heart was telling me this was a bad idea. 

Then somebody mentioned in passing that parents were now allowed and even encouraged to sit in with youth interviews. 

I signed the online petition several months ago because I was so against it.  I have my reasons and it doesn't really have a whole lot to do with not trusting the bishop. 

Tomorrow is Victoria's first interview and we will see how this will go. So tired of fighting battles to keep my kids safe.

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