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Adoption Laws

As a person who deals with adoptions every day of my working life I am shocked by how a specific adoption agency handles birth fathers. According to tsate law in a certain state a mother can terminate her rights and place the child for adoption with out the father even knowing.  The state laws are so in favor of the birth mom that this agency will have birth moms move to said state and deliver there so the agency does not have to put forth any effort to find the father.  I am livid about it.  If a father wants to raise his child he should have that right.  I think it is totally unfair that a father has to prove he is fit to raise a child but the mother doesn't.   

I really think fathers are no consider important which just makes me mad and annoyed.  Even by an agency which preaches it is about families.  I think the agency likes the state laws because it makes adoptions easier.  If we ever move to this state I think I am take it upon myself to do more research and start advocating for a change in laws. 

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