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Bonding with Babies

I have a friend/neighbor who told me she called CPS on her daughters baby.  One of the concerns were that mom didn't appear bonded to the baby. Baby is in NICU and mom didn't have a great bringing up.  I have some concerns with the call but, my comment to her was not everybody bonds with their babies at birth.  I didn't with Jake and I didn't with Luke. 

There are those moms that instantly fall in love and embrace motherhood.  I am not one of those moms.  Motherhood has been a struggle and every time I think I have found my stride something happens and I realize that isn't the case.

I love my kids.  I love that I have four healthy fairly well adjusted children.  But bonding isn;t that I just natural did.  Sure I took care of them and fed them but it took a few months for half my children before I "fell in love"  with Luke it was much much longer then that. 

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