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Modesty

If you have an issue with out my daughter dresses take it up with me.  Do not tell my daughter she is too young to have her ears pierced.  Do not tell her she is too young to wear bras.  Do not tell her she is dressed immodest.  If you have issues tell me and I will like tell you why we made the decision we did.   

I refused to tell my daughter that her shoulders should be covered.  Her knees aren't some how sexual at ten.  I know lots of people disagree and feel I am leading my children down a path that will end them in a horrible place.  But at the end of the day I get to live with those consequences not anybody else.

Telling her that she is dressed immodest for church doesn't make her want to suddenly wear clothes that have sleeves in fact in makes her not want to come to church. 

It isn't helpful to shame a preteen girl.  It can shatter their self esteem and set them up for all sorts of issues in the future.  Telling a girl that they are responsible to dress "modestly" so boys don't thin sexual thoughts sets girls up to feel responsible when and if  they are sexually assaulted.

I will teach my children to dress appropriately.  Which is clearly different for me then other families.

Yes this is an issue I feel strongly about. 

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