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Children and Marriage

Last Sunday when I was driving home from McCall I was listening to BYU radio station and there was an interview with Sister Hinkley.  President Hinkley's daughter who use to be the general primary president.  I listed to a half hour interview and the one thing that stuck with me was she said that we always talk about what a strain children are on marriage.  Which she admiited they were but she said we fail to talk about the strengthing in a marriage that happens with children.  Children have the ability to bring us to our lowest lows yet our spouse has the ability to help us out of those lows.  She didn't say it but I think moms often feel the stress of raising kids more then dads. she gave an example about how she was stressed about raising several young children when her husband was busy working long hours.  Her husband was able to hire some help for her.  She said she was at her breaking point.  Been there done that.  Luke's colic Andrews RSV Jake's behaviors and Miss Tori's drama has all at different times pushed me to my breaking point and at then end when the crisis had resolve it really did help make our marriage stronger although not necessarily in the moment.  At the moment it felt our marriage was at its breaking point as well.

I talked to the mechanic today and the van needs a new water pump and new rear breaks and on and on.  He was suppose to email me the list but did not.   I need to call tomorrow.

Went for a run tonight it felt amazing although I didn't run a long as I was scheduled but I didn't want to run past nine.  I am excited to start my new work out eating plan next week.  I feel like I hit a platatue.

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