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11 years and counting

Happy Anniversary!

What an eleven years of marriage it has been.  We have been together almost 13 years.  We have gained three college degrees and the student loans that go with them.  We have been through five pregnancies and two kids.  We have been through building and buying our amazing house.  We have been through major back surgery. We have moved only once.  And we are surviving unemployment and we made it through employment several hundred miles away.  We have soccer games and dance classes.  We are each other's best friend.  And that my friends is why I stay.  I stay because when I think of my life with out Lee it becomes a sad place.

We made it through losing a parent and heart problems from another.  We made it through step parents.

There are some things that I would change that I would do differently but then again maybe not.  Because all of those things I think I would do differently made our marriage what it is today.

Divorce is all too common and I think it usually comes down to one or both people being selfish.  When I see friends and family leaving marriages just because they are not happy it make my skin crawl.  Especially when kids are involved. 

When I thought about where we would be 11 years from now I realized we would not need a babysitter for the kids when we went out for our anniversary.  I would hope at 16 and 17 they could stay home alone.  :)

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