So my random post for this evening is about secrets. I am not sure why people feel the need to tell me things that I then can't tell anybody else although they will all find out eventually. At work last year I found out some information that I wasn't able to pass along because of my job. People that I thought I knew turns out I didn't. Although the information became public record I doubt most people know what happened but the stress of not being able to say anything when people talked was incredible. Back to the secret that somebody told me a while back although I know that after a while everybody will find out the secret and I will then not feel so overwhelmed that I might slip and say something that I shouldn't have said. The funny thing is I am not even sure why this person thinks this needs to be a secret but they do and I respect that. There are other things that I know that will probably never come to light and nor do they need to.
I have kept my fair share of secrets. There are many things that we have done in our marriage that people have guessed were out of selfishness or that we being prideful but the truth is so much more then that. People never asked and I never told. But I realized recently that people were judging us with out knowing the whole truth or even bothering to find out. I guess the whole point of all this randomness is that be careful what you tell people because that person will have to carry the burden of your secret. Also don't assume that people are doing something for the wrong reasons.
I have kept my fair share of secrets. There are many things that we have done in our marriage that people have guessed were out of selfishness or that we being prideful but the truth is so much more then that. People never asked and I never told. But I realized recently that people were judging us with out knowing the whole truth or even bothering to find out. I guess the whole point of all this randomness is that be careful what you tell people because that person will have to carry the burden of your secret. Also don't assume that people are doing something for the wrong reasons.
I am not a good secret keeper. That's a lot of pressure to trust someone not to say anything. Especially if it's a really exciting secret! I think it's human nature to want to tell someone else. You could always tell someone outside of the circle, like your mom maybe? That way you get it off your chest but no one will find out you told! Good luck Nat ;)
ReplyDeleteI think my mom already knows. It really isn't my secret to tell and it isn't exciting. I don't know why it is a big deal but I think it will be to other family members.
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